Freedom From Our Identities

(originally written sep 2021)

Make your self a cuppa tea and take a moment to really allow this to land with you. You may feel some resistance and some uncomfortableness and thats totally ok! 

When we feel that uncomfortableness we know we are shedding and clearing some programming and identities 😉

I do talk a-lot about this subject and I find myself taking more and more about it as it has become the absolute core of my work with people. 

This was a natural unfolding for me, as I became aware of my own programming and allowed more and more of my own identities to fall away. My sessions with others have become more powerful, deeper and straight to the core of what needs to be acknowledged. My work has always been to guide you home, back to your self and over the years this has morphed and evolved into different ways of guidance and mentoring but now it feels so much more focussed and streamlined.

Its been a deeply fulfilling and exciting unfolding and I am LOVING seeing the transmutations happen in session and witnessing my amazing clients lives changing. 

The last 6 months in particular have been the most potent personally for me in terms of the falling away..

I realised just how much I was attached to certain Identities and just how much we as humans are programmed and conditioned in this world!

Once you start to witness and become aware of this, you cannot go back. You cannot close your eyes and no longer see it, you cannot go back to sleep and back into denial.

This is the most amazing gift of freedom. 

Realising the constraints, conditioning, manipulation and control.

I know its frightening to first see it, it literally blows your mind but it brings the ultimate liberation and the ultimate gift of more of YOUR SELF. 

It starts at birth.. 

We are born into a world that thrives on programming and conditioning and its this that has us creating different identities we play in different situations, relationships, dynamics etc.

Its becoming aware of these identities and the patterning of the conditioning that allows us to choose. 

Choose to BE the authentic self and to come from the purity of who we truly are, OR to come from and act out our identities and our programming. The patterns that keep us bound to a false programmed self, bound to our past wounds and experiences. 

We become so entangled with our stories and our identities believing that they ARE us and we are them. This is the deception that comes through the false self and keeps us imprisioned, literally draining the vibrancy from our connection to self.

I personally started to become so aware of my Identities and what they felt like to play out or shall I say put on like an ill fitting outfit, that all I could see and feel was a shit load of different identities that had been with me since I was a little girl! It all made sense.. I had created them with the agenda of gaining and receiving what I was missing and what I felt I needed. Through the media, society, my personal experiences, sexual trauma, influences, upbringing, relationships and all of the different ways we are all conditioned and programmed, these identities developed over my 44yrs without me even knowing what was happening...

The good girl

The saviour

The rescuer

The bad girl

The people pleaser

The perfectionist

The controller 

Thats just to name a few.

Recognise any...?

The thing is, I don't need any identities to gain or receive anything from this life or from anyone else. 

I just need to be more of My Self. 

more and more and more... of My Self. 

Whatever that looks like and whatever that expresses like.

Being more of our selves is the ultimate freedom from the human condition. 

Its not the "lets be more of ourselves" spiritual paradigm that Im referring to here though! We can want to be more authentic but if we are not actually aware of our identities/conditioning/programming, how can we truly know if we are being our real self, minus the false self?

A G E N D A

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F E E L I N G 

Being aware of how you feel in your body at all times and being honest with yourself around the agendas behind your words, behaviour, actions and relationships is how we know. 

Its so helpful to be self inquisitive, to be so deeply honest with ourselves that we shock the hell out of ourself. Yes it stings sometimes to have these realisations and to really acknowledge how we have been doing life and internally operating but this IS the path way to being all that we truly wholly are!

Minus all that WE ARE NOT!!! 

Its time to speak more and more about this, its time for me to share more of my voice around this and I know its time for the collective to realise more of this! 

We have all been conditioned to shut the F up when it comes to speaking or acting outside of whats 'acceptable' 

Well guess what!! Its no longer fucking acceptable to -

deny 

suppress 

ignore

vilify

bypass

condem

shame

blame

dishonour

harm

and SILENCE the purity and truth of our self!! 

Because being what's "accepted" is what is keeping you from YOUR SELF! 

I dont know about you, but there aint no part of me that wants to be acceptable to anything or anyone outside of my self anymore!!!

Take a deep breath. 

Connect IN with you. 

Allow whats arising to rise, and then fall.

R E P E A T.

R E P E A T.

R E P E A T.

Im here, with and for you. 

We are never in any of this alone.

We have our self and each other.